When grown-ups grieve, and how it gets softer
Tests: 4 of 11 right · Exam: 1 of 4 right · Kind: ★ · Understood: 8 of 15 · Run: 2026-10-18, commit f3c23ea72
Lesson 69 of the religion ethics course of Mova's primary school, as Mova's small model took its tests: it had read this lesson and the ones before it and learned from their exercises. Each test shows the options in the order the student saw them, its choice, the right answer, the score of every option and why it chose. The lesson itself, sentence by sentence with trees and pragmatics: the lesson in the corpora.
Every question of this lesson and each of its options parsed by Mova, with trees and pragmatics: the lesson's questions in the corpora.
Test 1 · ★ · right ✓
«Me mam keeps sayin' she's grand but she's not grand at all,» says a girl in Dublin (grand = fine). Best thing to do?
- 1. Gently tell Mum she doesn't have to pretend — ← Mova's choice · ✓ the right answer · no support
- 2. Believe her and never ask her about it again, ever — no support
- 3. Get angry with Mum for hiding things — no support
- 4. Tell everyone at school Mum's lying — no support
Why: No option found support in what it remembers, so it guessed: it took the first option shown. · the question and its options parsed, with trees and pragmatics
Test 2 · ★ · wrong ✗
«Dad's like 40, why's he bawling about Gran, he's well old,» says Tom's brother (bawling = crying loudly). What's true?
- 1. Old people don't feel real sadness like kids do — no support
- 2. Dad should be well over it by now, at his age — no support
- 3. Dad is only crying to get attention from Gran's friends — ← Mova's choice · score 7
- 4. You never get too old to miss your mum — ✓ the right answer · no support
Why: It took the question to ask which statement is true. It chose option 3 with score 7, the only option with support. Its support: lesson 56, line 4: «Afterwards people grieve in their own ways: Dad may cry in the car, Grandad may go quiet and busy himself on the farm, and Megan may laugh at a film a week lat…», reached through the option's own match among the sentences about the question's things. What matched: the same action «cry» (+5); the same doer «dad» (+2). The right option, 4, found no support in what it remembers. · the question and its options parsed, with trees and pragmatics
Test 3 · ★ · right ✓
The vicar says, very formally: «The congregation extends its sympathy and will hold the family in its prayers.» What is he offering?
- 1. A list of rules for the funeral — no support
- 2. A bill for the funeral service — no support
- 3. The church's care and prayers for the family — ← Mova's choice · ✓ the right answer · score 4
- 4. A promise that grief will stop soon — no support
Why: It took the question to ask what it is done to. It chose option 3 with score 4, the only option with support. Its support: lesson 63, line 1: «After a person dies, families care for the body in one of two main ways: burial, where the coffin is lowered into a grave, or cremation, where the body is turn…», reached through the option's own match among the sentences about the question's things. What matched: the same action «care» (+2); the same circumstance (+1); a different doer (counts against) (+1). · the question and its options parsed, with trees and pragmatics
Test 4 · ★ · right ✓
«My dad's acting all happy again, that's mad disrespectful to Mum, fr» (fr = for real), says Lily. What's the wisest answer?
- 1. Being happy again is healing; Dad still loves Mum — ← Mova's choice · ✓ the right answer · score 0
- 2. Dad should be told off by the whole family for it — no support
- 3. She's right; Dad has forgotten Mum — score 0
- 4. Happy people never really loved anyone in the first place — no support
Why: It took the question to ask what it is done to. It chose option 1 with score 0, tied with another option at 0 (the first shown, or the one claiming less beyond what it knows, wins). Its support: lesson 69, line 8: «Being grown-up does not stop you missing your own mum or dad.», reached through the remembered sentence the question matched. What matched: it fills the role the question asks for (+3); the same thing acted on «own mum» (+1). Against it: a different action (counts against) (-4). · the question and its options parsed, with trees and pragmatics
Test 5 · ★ · right ✓
What would happen to most people's grief over a few years?
- 1. It would turn into anger for ever — no support
- 2. It would always get stronger and sharper as the years went by — no support
- 3. It would usually get softer, with more happy memories — ← Mova's choice · ✓ the right answer · score 5
- 4. It would vanish completely in one day — score 2
Why: It took the question to ask which statement is true. It chose option 3 with score 5, against 2 for the next best. Its support: lesson 69, line 3: «Grief usually gets softer with time: Oscar's grandad says that a year after his wife died the pain is «like a bruise that's healing», still there when touched,…», reached through the remembered sentence the question matched. What matched: the same property (+3); the same doer «grief» (+1); the same light verb (be, have, do, get, go) (+1). · the question and its options parsed, with trees and pragmatics
Test 6 · ★ · wrong ✗
A Gen X uncle says, «Grandpa joining a lunch club? Bummer, guess he's over Grandma» (bummer = shame). Put him right.
- 1. Grandpa is breaking a church rule — ← Mova's choice · no support
- 2. He's right; Grandpa has forgotten her and moved on with new friends — no support
- 3. New friends ease loneliness; they don't replace Grandma — ✓ the right answer · no support
- 4. Grandpa should stay home alone — no support
Why: No option found support in what it remembers, so it guessed: it took the first option shown. · the question and its options parsed, with trees and pragmatics
Test 7 · ★ · wrong ✗
«Mum's seeing a counsellor? She's not cray cray,» says Ben's cousin (cray cray = crazy). What's true?
- 1. Seeing a counsellor is shameful — ← Mova's choice · no support
- 2. Counsellors make you forget the dead — no support
- 3. Counsellors help ordinary people with big feelings — ✓ the right answer · no support
- 4. Only very ill people in hospital ever see counsellors — no support
Why: No option found support in what it remembers, so it guessed: it took the first option shown. · the question and its options parsed, with trees and pragmatics
Test 8 · ★ · wrong ✗
In a TV show, a widow says, «I'll never smile again», and the show ends there. What happens for most real people?
- 1. They must move far away to a new town to be happy — ← Mova's choice · score 7
- 2. Grief softens and smiles slowly come back — ✓ the right answer · no support
- 3. They really never smile again, not once — no support
- 4. They forget their husband within a week — score 7
Why: It took the question to ask which statement is true. It chose option 1 with score 7, tied with another option at 7 (the first shown, or the one claiming less beyond what it knows, wins). Its support: lesson 52, line 14: «Many very old people live in care homes, where staff help them wash, eat and move; some are lonely, and visits matter a lot.», reached through the option's own match among the sentences about the question's things. What matched: the same action «move» (+5); the same doer «people» (+2). The right option, 2, found no support in what it remembers. · the question and its options parsed, with trees and pragmatics
Test 9 · ★ · wrong ✗
«Is it gonna hurt like this forever?» asks Oscar. Which answer is honest?
- 1. No, by tomorrow you'll feel nothing — ← Mova's choice · no support
- 2. It usually gets softer, though you may always miss her — ✓ the right answer · no support
- 3. Yes, exactly like this, for ever and ever, every day — no support
- 4. Only if you don't go to church every day to pray — no support
Why: No option found support in what it remembers, so it guessed: it took the first option shown. · the question and its options parsed, with trees and pragmatics
Test 10 · ★ · wrong ✗
A girl in Cardiff says, «Our Nan's been tamping since Bampi died» (tamping = furious, Bampi = Grandad). What's going on?
- 1. Nan never really liked Bampi much, even before — no support
- 2. Nan is angry with the children for being noisy — no support
- 3. Anger can be part of grief for grown-ups too — ✓ the right answer · score 1
- 4. Grown-ups only ever get angry, never sad like kids — ← Mova's choice · score 10
Why: It took the question to ask who or what does it. It chose option 4 with score 10, against 1 for the next best. Its support: lesson 69, line 2: «Sometimes grown-ups say «I'm fine» to protect children, even when they are not; a child can knock gently, give a hug, or say «you don't have to pretend for me»…», reached through what was said in the sentence the question matched. What matched: it fills the role the question asks for (+6); the same doer «grown ups» (+4). The right option, 3, scored 1. · the question and its options parsed, with trees and pragmatics
Test 11 · ★ · wrong ✗
Myth to check: «If you stop crying, it means you've forgotten them.»
- 1. True; healing means forgetting — ← Mova's choice · no support
- 2. False, but only after ten years — no support
- 3. False; you can heal without forgetting — ✓ the right answer · no support
- 4. True; tears are the only proof of love — no support
Why: No option found support in what it remembers, so it guessed: it took the first option shown. · the question and its options parsed, with trees and pragmatics
Exam question 1 · formal language · wrong ✗
Which of the following statements most accurately characterises grief in adults?
- 1. Adults conclude their grief upon the day of the funeral — ← Mova's choice · score 7
- 2. Adults grieve exclusively for their own children — no support
- 3. Adults experience grief, at times for prolonged periods, as do children — ✓ the right answer · score 7
- 4. Adults are exempt from grief by reason of maturity — no support
Why: It took the question to ask who or what does it. It chose option 1 with score 7, tied with another option at 7 (the first shown, or the one claiming less beyond what it knows, wins). Its support: lesson 66, line 11: «Grief often comes in waves: something small, like a song or a smell, can bring it back suddenly, even after a good day.», reached through the remembered sentence the question matched. What matched: the same thing acted on «grief» (+4); the same property (+4). Against it: a different action (counts against) (-1). The right option, 3, scored 7. · the question and its options parsed, with trees and pragmatics
Exam question 2 · formal language · wrong ✗
Identify the principal function of a grief counsellor.
- 1. To compel the bereaved to forget the deceased — ← Mova's choice · no support
- 2. To restore the deceased to life by consultation — no support
- 3. To determine the inheritance of the deceased's estate — no support
- 4. To assist bereaved persons in coping with powerful emotions — ✓ the right answer · no support
Why: Nothing it remembers matched the question, so it guessed: it took the first option shown. · the question and its options parsed, with trees and pragmatics
Exam question 3 · formal language · wrong ✗
Select the response consistent with the established facts concerning the course of grief over time.
- 1. It ceases entirely and abruptly after one calendar month — ← Mova's choice · no support
- 2. It invariably increases in severity with each passing year — no support
- 3. It commonly diminishes in intensity while affection and memory endure — ✓ the right answer · no support
- 4. It may be concluded only by forgetting the deceased — no support
Why: No option found support in what it remembers, so it guessed: it took the first option shown. · the question and its options parsed, with trees and pragmatics
Exam question 4 · formal language · right ✓
It is given that a widowed parent resumes laughter some months after a bereavement. Ascertain which inference is consistent with the matters taught.
- 1. The parent is acting contrary to every religious tradition — no support
- 2. The parent has forgotten the deceased entirely — no support
- 3. The parent was never attached to the deceased — no support
- 4. The parent is healing and has not ceased to love the deceased — ← Mova's choice · ✓ the right answer · score 7
Why: It took the question to ask which statement is true. It chose option 4 with score 7, the only option with support. Its support: lesson 51, line 17: «Parents' love does not run out when a new baby comes, even though a newborn needs a great deal of time and care.», reached through the option's own match among the sentences about the question's things. What matched: the same action «love» (+5); the same doer «parents» (+2). · the question and its options parsed, with trees and pragmatics
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